I saw Dr. Phil promoting his new book Life Code on FOX News last week. He said he wrote the book because he wanted to warn his granddaughters about the real evils in the world, and he wanted to give them life strategies for success and happiness.
I agree with another reviewer who said Dr. Phil spent too much time in the first chapter telling you what he was going to teach you. I wanted to dive in; I was frustrated to get to the good stuff, but once the book got rolling, it had me in its grip.
In the first half of the book, Dr. Phil teaches about the bad guys—how to spot and defeat them. As a Licensed Professional Counselor, I immediately recognized he was referring to certain personality disordered individuals—sociopaths, narcissists, and borderlines—without calling them that. What’s unique is that he grouped all three into one type of person you would want to stay away from. He shared the clues about how to spot them and how to react once you know what you’re dealing with.
Christians might have a problem with this, seeing every person as redeemable, but the truth is—and Dr. Phil compels readers to understand—is that there really are bad people in the world. People who want to cheat, hurt, and steal from you and your loved ones. Of course, these evil people are on a continuum. Not every sociopath wants to molest and kill you. Some just want your money. Or your spouse. The point is, these people do not have the ability to empathize like regular folks. They could care less who they hurt and you need to know these people are very real. They are not lurking around every corner, but it’s guaranteed you have bumped elbows with them.
Dr. Phil describes how he took an inventory of every person who had hurt him in his lifetime. He hung pieces of paper all over the walls and used a colored marker to describe in detail what the offender’s strategy was, what tricks he used, how he came across, and how he got Dr. Phil to let down his guard. Once these were analyzed, Dr. Phil saw a clear set of clues that should have been a warning.
This book is all about showing readers those red flags.
The second half of the book deals with rules for winning in the world. Dr. Phil covers everything from how to stop being a target, to how to behave in an argument. He gives tricks for negotiation, and rules for parenting in the modern world.
The best aspect of this book is the real life examples Dr. Phil shares. Everyone would be wise to read this book.
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Lucille Zimmerman is a Licensed Professional Counselor with a private practice in Littleton, CO and an affiliate faculty teacher at Colorado Christian University.
She is also the author of Renewed: Finding Your Inner Happy in an Overwhelmed World. Through practical ideas and relatable anecdotes, readers can better understand their strengths and their passions—and address some of the underlying struggles or hurts that make them want to keep busy or minister to others to the detriment of themselves. Renewed can help nurture those areas of women’s lives to use them better for work, family, and service. It gives readers permission to examine where they spend their energy and time, and learn to set limits and listen to “that inner voice."