Dear Moms and Dads of Young Ones,
Someday your children are going to grow up and become your best friends. Your family is going to bring you more and more joy with each passing decade.
I don’t know how I didn’t know this but I didn’t.
I grew up with a lot of chaos and loss. My mom died three days before my high school graduation, I’m not close to many of my six siblings.
I didn’t know family could be something you adored.
It makes me sad to say that. Of course, I loved my mom and dad, and my brothers and sisters, but because of her terminal illness, and a whole lot of other factors, I didn’t know family could be something wonderful.
My biggest joy in life has been this slow-motion reveal that family could be the most wonderful thing.
Today I was thinking about the time I went to visit my daughter who was studying abroad in The Netherlands. Baylor University had a study abroad program in Maastricht. When Taylor met me at the train she greeted me with flowers and stroopwafel cookies. It was like the roles had flipped. Instead of me leading and protecting her, she was leading me.
Since then Taylor has gotten married and her husband is like a son to us. Nine months ago, we got a little granddaughter. My son has been dating the sweetest gal for six years. Last weekend we went to the small town where my son is a realtor and had dinner with him and his girlfriend.
I won tickets to the Presidential Inauguration, so this week my son and I are going to Washington D.C. for five days. My husband is buried under work so it’s just me and Tucker. I can’t wait to see how we bond, just the two of us.
When I was a young mom, weary from my husband’s out of town travels, I didn’t know what a rich legacy lay before me. In fact, I almost let it go.
Now I look upon my family like gold.
If you’re a few years behind me, tired, stressed, and wondering if all this is worth it, let me encourage you. You are making huge deposits into something you likely can’t see.
I promise, the investment is worth it!
Lucille Zimmerman is a Licensed Professional Counselor with a private practice in Littleton, CO and an affiliate faculty teacher at Colorado Christian University.
She is also the author of Renewed: Finding Your Inner Happy in an Overwhelmed World. Through practical ideas and relatable anecdotes, readers can better understand their strengths and their passions—and address some of the underlying struggles or hurts that make them want to keep busy or minister to others to the detriment of themselves. Renewed can help nurture those areas of women’s lives to use them better for work, family, and service. It gives readers permission to examine where they spend their energy and time, and learn to set limits and listen to “that inner voice."