I’m spending some time getting serious about knowing who you are. I know that 99% of my readers live in the United States. Most are female. There are a few men…I’m grateful for all of you.

Age wise it breaks down like this:

18 – 24 year olds make up 2% of you

25 – 34 year olds make up 8 %

35 – 44 year olds make up 20% of my readership

45 – 54 year olds make up 30%

55 – 64 year olds make up 22%

65 and older makes up 6%

Teenage friends at the coffee bar debating, Ljubljana, Slovenia


The majority of my readers are between the ages of 35 – 64, live in the United States, and are women. I hope those of you who don’t fit that demographic will still feel welcome here. I treasure each one of you.


A few of you live in Canada, Australia, South Africa, India, Indonesia, United Kingdom, Mexico, Switzerland, Ecuador, Czech Republic, and Germany. I love the thought of having readers all over this planet!

Family sitting in hammock


But here’s where I need your help. I hope you’ll be brave and email me at Lucille@LucilleZimmerman.com and let me know a few things about you. I promise no judgement! If you watch Rated R movies, are tempted to have an affair, feel shame over something, or whatever, I hope you’ll feel safe.


I can’t write to your issues unless I know more about you. Obviously some of you will send me an email and I’ll recognize the name but I promise not to judge:-). If anyone has suggestions for how people can answer anonymously I would love to hear. Anyway, here are a few questions to get you thinking.


Don’t feel like you need to answer them all.


If you want, you can cut and paste the list below into an email and then provide answers I’d be so grateful.


Lastly, I can’t provide personal counseling here. I hope you understand. I try to provide helpful physical, emotional, and spiritual advice without providing one-on-one help.


Marital Status:

Kids’ Ages:



Spouse’s Occupation:

Hobbies: Bunko, Pickle Ball, Bullet Journaling

Where do you shop? What are your favorite stores? Gap, Target, Tommy Bahama, Nordstroms

What types of books do you read? Sci-Fi, Romance, trashy novels with lots of sex, self help, history

Favorite music groups? Lady Gaga, Chris Tomlin 

What are your favorite magazines? Cosmopolitan, Christianity Today

What types of blogs or websites do you visit on a regular basis? Fashion, makeup, book reviews

What are your favorite TV shows and movies? Big Little Lies, The Affair, The Bachelor, Desperate Housewives, Homeland, Cooking Shows

What social media channels do you like to use? Instagram, Facebook, Twitter? 

What religion do you practice? Are you devout, not religious, searching, Christian

Where do you stand politically? Left, middle, right, don’t care

Where do you like to vacation? Florida Keys, cruises, Asia, never taken a vacation

What are the topics you like to have with family and friends? Politics, recipes

Where do you spend your free money? Lotto tickets, books, music, beer, clothes, makeup, perfume, 

What does a typical day look like? Take kids to school, run errands, go to work, sit around bored

What is your biggest source of pain? loneliness, regret, shame, divorce, abortion, lust

What keeps you up at night? How to pay the bills, did I choose the right mate, what is the meaning of life

What is your deepest fear? Growing old without purpose, kids growing up, paying for kid’s college

What is the biggest danger? Affair, divorce, weight gain

What subjects do you try to avoid facing? Purpose, death

What are your greatest opportunities? Winning the lottery, travel, career

What are your hopes and dreams? Meeting someone wonderful, divorcing, getting the kids graduated

What are you looking forward to? Cruise, summer, the end of a bad job

Who or what do you aspire to be? Writing a best seller, being a grandma

What do you hope to accomplish in the next year? Knitting a blanket, graduating from college

What is your dream situation—the thing you would pay almost anything to have happen? Buying a house, starting a business, traveling

What do you value? Family, money, 

What are you most grateful for? Faith, family, 

What are you hiding from others? Spending

How do you feel people will react if they found out? Divorce

Did any of these questions or answers surprise you? 




Lucille Zimmerman is a Licensed Professional Counselor with a private practice in Littleton, CO and an affiliate faculty teacher at Colorado Christian University.

She is also the author of Renewed: Finding Your Inner Happy in an Overwhelmed World. Through practical ideas and relatable anecdotes, readers can better understand their strengths and their passions—and address some of the underlying struggles or hurts that make them want to keep busy or minister to others to the detriment of themselves. Renewed can help nurture those areas of women’s lives to use them better for work, family, and service. It gives readers permission to examine where they spend their energy and time, and learn to set limits and listen to “that inner voice."