Self Compassion and Emotional Agility
A few years ago I made a series of video clips about personality disorders and various types of counseling. They received tens of thousands of views and tons of subscribers. I'm not sure why I stopped doing that, but today I was thinking about my Youtube audience. I'm...
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The Comforting Thing I Learned About God’s Provision
I was 15. I went three days without food. I wanted to die, wanted to walk in front of a car, just have it be over. Depriving myself of food was just one more way for me to bury the pain. Heck, I’d tried guys, drugs, booze. None of those worked. Neither did...
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The Surprising Benefit That Can Come From Experiencing Trauma
The field of psychology used to focus solely on the pathologies of people. In other words, it focused on what makes people depressed, anxious, and unhappy. But the last few decades brought a much needed addition to the field: Positive Psychology. Positive Psychology...
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Your Calling: Tips from a Homespun Scholar
It happened again yesterday. I met a friend for lunch and she asked, “Where do you keep all that stuff in your brain?” I responded, “What stuff?” She said, “You are like a walking encyclopedia with books, podcasts, videos, TED talks, research studies, interesting...
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Slowing Down to Hear the Mystery
Sorry friends, it’s been awhile since I wrote my last blog post. I wonder if your summer has been as busy as mine. I didn’t intend for it to be this way. Today I took a long walk, alone, so I could hear the sound of my own heartbeat. And I’ve been reading a quiet...
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Do You Want to Know How You Are Wired? Answer These Three Questions
Recently I signed up to receive Stephanie S. Smith's Slant Letter - an editor's angle on finding you. Stephanie works as an acquisitions editor for Zondervan Books. Previously, she served as an editor at RELEVANT magazine, the Barna Group, and before all this she...
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Your Inner Happy
I've always used Instagram for my own pleasure. If you look, you'll see I have lots of posts with food, drink, and the people I love. However, I realized I was missing a huge opportunity to share my counseling, writing, and speaking material over there. I didn't...
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Surviving the Dizzying and Painful Cycle of Life with a Narcissist
It’s been a year and a half since I escaped a toxic friendship.I say escaped because early on I knew I had to get out. I had seen what happened to others who ended a friendship with her. There was a long trail of carnage. For professional reasons I can’t describe the...
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Warning: Going Life Alone Will Cost You
I'm listening to a terrific book on Audible right now. It's Dr. Henry Cloud's newest release: The Power of the Other. Here's a little bit from the back cover: No matter how talented, intelligent, or experienced, the greatest leaders share one commonality: the power of...
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What I’ve Been Up To
Photo by Molly McMillan Hey there, I wanted to wish you a happy Easter and give you an update. Some of you have been asking if our daughter and son-in-law's baby has been born. Nope! She's amost two weeks overdue. March has been a good month, but a long one. We wait...
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