Taking Charge of Your Marriage

  Source: Uploaded by user via Lucille on Pinterest “ A solid marriage is a wonderful legacy to give to your children. It does so much to secure them for life.” The words of my mother-in-law rang in my head, but I could no longer hang on. I had been married for...

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Men and Women Define Intimacy Differently

Football season is upon us. My husband is a huge CU Buffs fan, so for twenty-five years I have joined him in the bleachers but resented it. I hated how he could go four to six hours without saying a word to me. At the end of the game he would be bubbling, thinking we...

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Why is Intimacy so Important?

Intimacy is an important concept for several reasons.  First, as mentioned earlier, Erikson (1959/1980) thought intimacy was an important part of human development and that it facilitated creativity, productivity, and emotional integration. Second, intimacy seems to...

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Intimacy Needs Vary

Psychodynamic theorists claim people have differing capacities to form, enjoy, and maintain intimate relationships as a result of their individual histories (Prager, 1995). Intimacy seems to decline as romantic partners transition into parenthood and increase after...

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Time for Seperateness

Other researchers (Hatfield, 1988; Schnarch, 1991) believe that intimate relationships require independent and differentiated partners who can risk all levels of self-disclosure. Erikson’s (1963) view is that intimacy requires the ability to commit to the endurance of...

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What is Intimacy? Part 2

     Researchers have often included intimacy in their work, but few have attempted to define it.      Gilbert (as cited in Schaefer & Olson, 1981) describes intimacy as, “the depth of exchange, both verbally and /or nonverbally, between two persons, which implies...

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What is Intimacy? Part 1

     In 1900 the average life expectancy was 47 years old for men and 51 years for women.  Today it is 75 years for men and 80 for women (Arias, 2002).   In 1900 the average relationship lasted 20 – 25 years.  Today a couple that stays married may be together over 50...

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